Words by Valerie Mesa. Image by Nong V on UnSplash.
While love languages are informed by your life experiences, your zodiac sign can also influence how you love.
Love makes the world go ‘round; that’s what everyone says, right? But if every single person on the planet had the exact same love language, would this still be true?
The meaning of love and affection is subjective, because it denotes something completely different to everyone; this also makes it all the more interesting to explore. This, of course, is where we turn to the cosmos for validation, especially since a person’s love language can be determined by a number of astrological factors. (Please note before exploring the below astrological components any further, your birth chart is an exact screenshot of the sky the moment you took your first breath; each planet holds a unique significance and archetypal symbolism, which is where we’re able to unravel the layers of one’s celestial footprint.)
Throughout my experience as an astrologer, I’ve continued to discover the importance of our Venus sign(s) as well as that of our moon and Mars sign, when in regards to our one-on-one relationships. Wherever Venus is located in your birth chart—both the sign and house placement—can bring light to everything from your love language to your individual value systems. Also known as the goddess of love and beauty, Venus can speak to one’s seduction style and romantic aesthetic.
As for the moon sign, however, this is where things tend to get more personal, because it is a representation of your innermost feelings and sense of security, which is often a result of one’s upbringing. Mars (God of war) is the planet of action and desire, but it can also validate your levels of assertion, specifically when it comes to intimacy and passion. That being said, when exploring a romantic interest’s love language, or your own for that matter, you’ll want to be sure to consider the influence of these three planets: Venus, Mars and the moon. Last but not least, check which sign rules your heart-centered fifth house.
Without further ado, this is your love language, according to your zodiac sign:
Aries: Physical Touch
There’s nothing this fire sign loves more than a good challenge, and it’s all thanks to their audacious planetary ruler, Mars. Truth be told, it’s this innate carnality that makes Aries naturally competitive and incredibly passionate in the bedroom. As you can imagine, physical touch is a definite yes.
Additionally, they’re the first sign in the zodiac and essentially the youngest; hence their playful nature – not to mention the mere thrill they get out of purposely teasing their romantic interest. Aries want to see how far you’re willing to go for their love, so don’t be discouraged by their innocent games of hide and seek. Trust me, they want you to come and find them.
Taurus: Physical Touch, Giving/Receiving Gifts
Slow and steady wins the race, and Taurus wouldn’t have it any other way. Patient, dependable, and sensually driven, this fixed earth sign enjoys a slow burn. There’s no use in trying to rush them into anything. Governed by irresistible Venus, Taurus is easily titillated by their five senses, which is another reason why they prefer to take their time. Physical touch is definitely a Taurean love language, but in addition to being comfortable with keeping their romantic interest in close proximity, this fixed earth will make it a point to indulge in the experience of this love story. Giving and receiving gifts is another one! They recognize the value of everything, and they will go above and beyond if it’s worth it.
Gemini: Words of Affirmation
Look out for that mischievous twinkle in Gemini’s eyes! A sparkling intellectual by day and a devious trickster by night, this mutable air sign isn’t the easiest to pin down in the love department. On the contrary, their multifaceted nature and innate curiosity keeps everyone around them on their toes, and their romantic interest(s) are no exception. Governed by savvy Mercury, Geminis are quite fickle and flirtatious, but this is precisely why they need to be mentally stimulated in order to maintain a relationship. And though words of affirmation are a no-brainer for this air sign, they’re not easily impressed by a good schmooze. After all, you can’t play someone at their own game.
Cancer: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time
Sweet and sentimental at heart, Cancer is typically known for being a hypersensitive lover, but this doesn’t always have to mean they’re needy. On the contrary, this cardinal water sign’s tenacity will shine through their acts of kindness, nurturing nature, and undying devotion. They’re quite shy at first, so don’t be fooled by their bashful disposition.
On the right moon, Cancer’s blushing passions will be impossible to miss, but one thing’s for sure, they need to feel comfortable in their special someone’s presence. Otherwise, good luck trying to get them to open up. Words of affirmation and quality time will increase the likelihood of you dating this enigmatic water sign, but it still wouldn’t happen overnight.
Leo: Words of Affirmation, Quality time, Physical touch, Acts of service, Giving/Receiving gifts
Lights, camera, theatrics! If you’re not big on the compliment giving and royal treatment, then you’ll definitely wanna pass on this fixed fire sign. Ruled by the ever-burning sun — the center of our universe — it’s no wonder Leos can’t help but make a scene wherever they go. Similarly, their love language is larger than life itself, but they also demand respect in return. Childlike and wildly passionate, this fire sun wants nothing more than to love and be loved in return. That being said, love is their first language, so it’s all of the above for Leo: Words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts. This fire sign also enjoys the thrill of the chase, as long as they’re not the ones doing the chasing, of course.
Virgo: Acts of Kindness, Quality Time
Meticulous and undeniably grounded, this earth sign tends to pride itself on its problem-solving skills, which is one of the reasons they’re difficult to impress. For Virgo, in addition to striving for organization and productivity, less is always more. A believer in the tradition of courtship, first they take time to assess the situation and come to a clear decision. However, once Virgo decides to commit, their sporadic acts of kindness will be the first hint to look out for. Also, this Mercury-ruled sign is all about the details, and cleanliness is no exception. Good hygiene is a must, so if your friendly neighborhood Virgo is looking extra dapper around you, you’ll know why.
Libra: Quality Time, Words of Affirmation
Where there is love, there is a Libra. Governed by harmony-seeking Venus, this cardinal air sign moves with grace and poise, but more importantly, they genuinely strive to be just as romantic as they are relatable. Don’t get it twisted — Libras aren’t easy to hold down, but this is another reason why they tend to prioritize everything from your individual freedom to your unique perspective. Quality time and words of affirmation are definitely in Libra’s modus operandi, so don’t be caught off guard by their curiosities and generally inquisitive nature. While these air signs are prone to chronic indecision, it’s always a good sign when you have their attention. Aesthetics are also their jam, so it doesn’t hurt to look the part.
Scorpio: Physical Touch
Often notorious for being the most misunderstood zodiac sign, Scorpios tend to get a lot of backlash, but there’s so much more to this Pluto-ruled sign than meets the eye. For instance, in addition to being deeply passionate and an undercover hopeless romantic, Scorpio is also a ride-or-die for the ones they love. This intense desire for intimacy, however, isn’t easily discovered let alone accessible, as they are also incredibly guarded with their heart. Physical touch and quality time are right up their alley but remember, once Scorpio mates, it’s for life. This fixed water sign has a very high EQ, and let’s just say, they know exactly how to use it. Interested in a Scorpio? Don’t be afraid to let them in, and if they happen to share one of their Spotify favorites with you, you’re onto something.
Sagittarius: Quality Time
YOLO! Sagittariuses aren’t really as complicated in love as they initially seem to be. And though this mutable fire sign isn’t necessarily a fan of commitment, they also can’t resist the sheer thrill that comes with every experience, especially those that take them on an adventure or simply out of their comfort zone. Sagittariuses love to be on the go, which means if you’re not up for some good ol’ Jupiterian fun, then they’ll catch you on the flipside. Truth be told, this fire sign prefers to act on spontaneity, and their love language is no exception. However, don’t bother sweet-talking them with exhilarating words of affirmation if you don’t plan on keeping your word, because they will eventually put you to the test.
Capricorn – Giving/Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service
Traditional and innately sophisticated, love is an investment for Capricorns, which means they’re not about to waste their time unless it’s worth their while. This cardinal earth sign is a natural-born winner and by that I mean, they will strive for nothing less than what is at the tip-top of the mountain. That being said, giving and receiving gifts is just as important as quality time. Acts of service is no exception, because once Capricorn commits, they’re not only invested in the relationship, but also your general success. Not to sound superficial, but they crave mastery in all areas, and they expect nothing less from their significant other. The real question is, can you keep up?
Aquarius: Acts of Service
Governed by unconventional Uranus, Aquarians tend to stand out amongst the crowd, and they wouldn’t have it any other way. A non-conformist at heart, their words of affirmation could also come with a series of curveballs and contradictions, given their intellectual nature and fascination with the psychology behind their social interactions. Poking and probing is all in good fun, at least in the eyes of this fixed air sign, so don’t be discouraged by their sarcastic quips and playful interrogations. An Aquarius knows how to work the room, but they’re also easily unimpressed and underwhelmed. So, by all means, don’t hesitate to be your most eccentric self.
Pisces: Acts of Kindness, Quality Time
Love is but a dream for a Pisces, and it’s all thanks to their enchanting planetary ruler, Neptune. Bad news first? This mutable water sign can be slippery in the love department, and this is all because they can’t help but see the magic in everything and everyone. This, of course, includes romantic prospects, which is why Pisces are often notorious for being wishy-washy and deceitful in this arena. However, the truth of the matter is, this water sign is very capable of feeling one way, and then suddenly backtracking completely. Nevertheless, while they are quite fond of partaking in acts of kindness, you’ll know a Pisces is into you by the amount of time they choose to spend with you.